I am currently working with a Business Coach and a Master Certified Law of Attraction Coach. My Business Coach helps me with the whats and the how tos (the action steps) of my business while my Law of Attraction Coach helps me ensure that my thoughts and emotions are in line with my goals and my higher self.
Even though I am very appreciative of their guidance, anytime you are asking for the help of others (and even when it is unsolicited by you), you may receive suggestions, advice or ideas that just don’t quite fit. Initially, you might question yourself wondering if maybe what doesn’t feel quite right is simply fear and the other person must be right because they are the expert . You wrestle with self-doubt. You wrestle with trying to please others and wanting their approval.
I know I am not alone, I have worked with many clients who struggle with balancing their priorities with others demands; those things that other people want you to do or get done. They somehow feel that they are a bad person or will not be liked if they say no. At times, they cannot say no to others and yes to themselves because they think they are not deserving of getting what they want.
Or, they struggle with balancing what they want with what they should be doing. And, often those “shoulds” are the requests or expectations of others, real or assumed. So, they say yes to everyone else, feel resentful and their self-respect goes down.
Tending to your priorities and demands along with your wants and shoulds is essential to tending to your relationships. It prevents stress from building and potential blow ups. The longer that relationships are uncared for the harder they are to repair.
When you are able to say no while maintaining and/or improving your relationships and maintaining your self-respect then you are an interpersonal effectiveness rock star!
The Law of Allowing is the third Universal Law that speaks to the importance of following your own path. The Law of Allowing is the principle of least action and no resistance. When you are without resistance your thoughts and feelings are in alignment with your desires and you are in the flow of pure positive energy. You are able to attract what you want with ease and grace.
Allowing is giving yourself permission to be who we truly are. It is speaking your mind and choosing your own path, regardless of what others tell you.. It is letting go of judgment of yourself and worries about what others are going to think of you, if you choose your own path. When you allow for yourself and your wants, you demonstrate self-love and appreciation and you open the channel for the universe to provide.