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  • By Francesca Dattilo
  • 06 Jul, 2016

The Law of Detachment

I am a classic over-achiever.   I know this stems from early conditioning telling me that I was not good enough.   So, I compensate by trying to do more to show that I am worthy.   I have come a long way as far as my self-worth is concerned. I have a daily practice of energy work and I still fall into the trap of “acting” my way to success.

The Law of Attraction tells us that what we focus on we create .   The Law of Deliberate Creation states that we can create consciously by choosing what we focus on . And the Law of Detachment says that in order to attract what we want into our lives, we must detach from how it will happen and the outcome.  

It may seem like an oxymoron; focus on what you want, yet don’t get attached to the outcome, but the Law of Detachment works in harmony with all the other Universal Laws .   Working the Law of Detachment is a delicate balance between an unrelenting focus on what you want and a “I have nothing to lose” position.  

Detachment is the ultimate form of allowing and acceptance of what is and what will be.   When we allow, we do not force things into being.   Often, when we are efforting, controlling and forcing things into being we lose out.   We end up sacrificing other parts of our lives.   We might fulfill the goal, but at a cost to our health and relationships.   We lose harmony and balance in our lives.

The Law of Detachment is based on trust. Christy Whitman, Law of Attraction Speaker and Coach provides this definition of trust:

T o  

R ely

U nto

S pirit  

T otally  

Emotional freedom and psychological well-being is accessible when we trust that the universe has our back and that the universe provides to us when the time is right.   We often get stuck in resistant thoughts such as:

“When is this going to happen?”;

“Why has it not happened yet?” and  

“How is it going to happen?”

These thoughts create fear, insecurity and doubt.   They indicate desperation.   Desperation is attachment. We are clutching too hard.   We are then in our own way, clinging to our resistance and blocking our desires from coming to us.  

Deepak Chopra states that anything can be acquired through detachment because detachment is based on the unquestioning belief in the power of your true self .   Attachment is based on fear and insecurity and comes from a lack consciousness .   It is founded in the belief that circumstances, situations, and people outside of ourselves are the source of our happiness and success . Detachment is a recognition that our abundance and wealth consciousness comes from our connection to our divine selves.  

Going back to my “acting and doing” my way to success…yes action is necessary to attract what we want.   But, a true wealth consciousness is the ability to attract what you what with the least amount of effort .  

We often choose action as a means of seeking control, security and certainty.   We stick to what we know because we feel safe there . Staying with what is familiar can be a rigid stance that prevents the field of all possibilities.   Uncertainty is an essential experience of detachment.   Being willing to step into the unknown breeds brilliance; potential solutions to problems that would not have otherwise come to you in the “known” .   Uncertainty can then become exciting.

Enoch Tan, Author, Speaker and Law of Attraction Master shares that the Law of Detachment is demonstrated by the example that productivity increases when a person takes frequent breaks from work .   Being able to constantly walk away from what you are doing puts you in a state of rest and therefore you are able to reconnect with the flow of the universe.

Clearly, I need a break!  

Surrender yourself to the flow of the universe.   Ways to Let Go. Let God. Let Be:

Commit yourself to detachment.

Be willing to embrace uncertainty.

Look for evidence of trust in yourself and the universe: make a list of things you have wanted in the past and received.

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