Francesca Dattilo, MSW
Certified Law of Attraction Coach
Certified Style Coach (MIASC Accred.)

Call me:  613.204.0781


The Relationships that Take You Home

  • By Francesca Dattilo
  • 11 Jan, 2017

When I was becoming a Certified Law of Attraction Coach, we were expected to do Law of Attraction processes consistently as homework.   I recall my instructor stating that she liked to think of homework as “the work that takes us home”.  


What she meant was that by doing Law of Attraction processes, we are raising our vibration to feelings such as appreciation, joy, peace and love.   And, when we experience these emotions we are then connected to our true selves or our divine selves.  


Now, I make it a habit of doing Law of Attraction processes daily, but this holiday season what “took me home” was spending time with the people most dear to me; my family, my husband and my friends.    


I had 2 visitors this holiday season that made the time very special; my best friend, Moe who moved back to Newfoundland 6 years ago and my dear friend, Jennifer who moved to Sudbury a few years back.

Being in this space of the Law of Allowing together; them allowing me to be who I am and I allowing them to be who they are. And, by “me” giving “me” permission to be who I truly am, I was pleasantly surprised with how “me” I felt.   I noticed I was more myself than I had been in a long time.  


I am so grateful for my relationships.   I love that they are easy.   I love that they are harmonious and I love that they bring me back to me!  


A deep desire to feel close to people is one our most most basic human needs. Our relationships can bring us our greatest joy and sorrow. When they are going well they increase our emotional hardiness and make us less vulnerable to lower vibratory emotions.   Our relationships give us an opportunity to experience our greatest growth.   They give us valuable information about ourselves, as they often mirror for us those qualities we need to develop within and the places we need to heal within.

Being in this space of the Law of Allowing together; them allowing me to be who I am and I allowing them to be who they are. And, by “me” giving “me” permission to be who I truly am, I was pleasantly surprised with how “me” I felt.  I noticed I was more myself than I had been in a long time. 


I am so grateful for my relationships.  I love that they are easy.  I love that they are harmonious and I love that they bring me back to me!  


A deep desire to feel close to people is one our most most basic human needs. Our relationships can bring us our greatest joy and sorrow. When they are going well they increase our emotional hardiness and make us less vulnerable to lower vibratory emotions.  Our relationships give us an opportunity to experience our greatest growth.  They give us valuable information about ourselves, as they often mirror for us those qualities we need to develop within and the places we need to heal within.


I was not always so blessed with such wonderful relationships.  I lived out many dramas and traumas in my past in relation to others.  It took work to get here; many years of introspection, getting clear on who I wanted to be and what I wanted in my relationships,  examining my thinking, feeling and behaviour patterns and changing them, and having the tough conversations to attend to my wants, needs and the relationships.


As a previous psycho-therapist, I taught my clients how to work on their current relationships in part by teaching them assertiveness skills or effective strategies for asking for what they want, saying no and coping with interpersonal conflict.  We also worked on repairing old relationships and reaching out for new relationships.  Tending to relationships also meant ending hopeless relationships.  


When relationships aren’t working I often ask my clients these questions:


  1. What is the higher purpose of the relationship?
  2. What is the relationship trying to teach them?
  3. What have they come together to create or bring to the world? and;
  4. How is the relationship bringing them closer to their soul?


If you are wanting more love and connection, I encourage you to focus on where you are experiencing love and connection in your life, and to acknowledge these experiences whenever they occur.  Remember, whatever we focus on grows.    


My time with my family and friends over the holiday season reminded me that connection is a priority value for me and why I create relationships based on trust.   My relationships bring me my greatest joy.   I believe in having deep relationships with people because only then can we be free to be our true, authentic and vulnerable selves.   I would love to help you with your relationships to create your greatest joy.

If you are seeking a compassionate and trusted professional, I would be honoured to serve you. Click on the link to contact me:   http://www.francescadattilo.ca/contact

Share by: