Do you think that your thoughts are a crucial factor in your well-being? I am asking because recently I read a post on a FaceBook page where a woman commented that she thought her depression and anxiety was completely organic, meaning it was caused by a physical reason such as a chemical imbalance and/or the structure of her brain was compromised. This could be something that you are born with or happens through the course of her life. She also stated that she did not believe that we could heal or recover from a condition that was organic.
I noticed that a number of other people commented with varied opinions. One person believed that depression was largely related to a loss of meaning and lack of connection to work and people. While another believed that the imbalance of the brain chemicals was simply a symptom of an underlying issue. Having worked in the field of mental health for 18 years, I put my 2 cents in.
We are blessed moving into this New Year! At this time, like many of you, I am taking stock of how 2017 went and I reflect on what I would like to see happen differently in 2018. I think of what I preach to my clients, “Practice living the life you want to live and not the life you are currently living! When I reflect on all the contrast; those experiences I did not like, want or prefer to happen in 2017, “practicing the life you want to live…” is much easier said then done.
As I do a review of all 8 aspects of my life:
I think of what Law of Attraction master Esther/Abraham Hicks tells us:
“The basis of life is absolute freedom.
The objective of life is joy.
The result of life is absolute growth.”
Here in Ottawa, Canada with the Holiday Season around the corner, there is no denying that winter has arrived! Each time we head outside we arm ourselves with our mitts, scarves, hats, boots and our winter coats to protect us from the cold. For some of us, our winter gear is all about function. And then there are people like me who want to stay warm and look their best.
I love the Holiday Season. I am a sucker for all the Christmas movies, the carols, the lights and the decorations. I am one of “those” who “chomp at the bit" to get the house decorated as soon as December 1st hits.
As you might already know, I encourage my clients to create work/life balance and harmony. So, this time of year is a good time to unplug from work. For me, this Season stands for spending time with the people you care about most, taking stock of what really matters to you, chilling out and having fun. It is also a spiritual time for me to reconnect to the qualities of peace, love and joy.
But, most of us do not live “Hallmark” Christmas movie lives. Spending time with the family, whether it is your family of origin, your immediate family or your in-laws does not bring about the experience of peace, love or joy.
I like you, have experienced my greatest growth through my most painful and challenging times. I have graduated from the “School of Hard Knocks”. At times, it seems with a PHD. But, then I meet someone who has suffered much more than I and I think, maybe not.
All of the pain and suffering has had meaning. When we are able to make meaning out of our darkest times, we are more capable of tolerating our distress. Then we can accept and allow for our distress and the situation.
I am sure you have heard it time and time again that every woman should have a little black dress (LBD) as a staple in their wardrobe. The LBD is considered a “go to” for many different occasions including this yuletide season. But, the LBD is not for everyone .
If you are looking for fresh and trendy wear this holiday season think outside the box. Think sheen, shine, sparkle, dazzle and visual interest. Here are some current tips to celebrate the holiday season in style!
Do you ever notice that when we get super busy one of the first things to go is taking care of our bodies? We are on the run so we eat poorly, grab what is quickest or skip meals all together. And, fitting exercise into our demanding schedules seems impossible.
Have you ever been stuck in an area of your life because you have been fighting or pushing against the reality of the situation? You are imposing your “should” or “should not” on the situation. You think about how unfair it is and how it is not supposed to be happening this way . You do not allow it to just be. You may not even realize that you are doing it.
I rarely attend formal events where a floor length gown is appropriate. A floor length gown is called a ballerina length dress. I am not really a floor length gown type of gal. I do love the sleek elegance of a cocktail dress though. Christian Dior was the first to use the term “cocktail dress” to refer to early evening wear in the late 1940s.
A cocktail dress is very versatile. It can easily go from day wear at the office to evening wear. In a professional environment, you could pair a cocktail dress with a fitted jacket or cardigan and low heeled shoes. To spice it up for evening wear, you pair it with stand out accessories and high heels.
Do you ever feel like a 2 year old having a tantrum when things do not go your way?
In general I rarely get angry. I feel irritation and annoyance at times, but this is low level anger that passes quickly. But, oh boy! when I have computer or tech issues, there been times I have wanted to throw my laptop out the window. The curse words have been known to fly. (I know that I am not alone here). And then, my husband tries to help me out and he gets the brunt of my anger.
Even though my anger makes sense because something important to me is being blocked. In this case, I am trying to get my work done for and on my business to create success, but the ****! computer is getting in the way.