Francesca Dattilo, MSW
Certified Law of Attraction Coach
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  • By Francesca Dattilo
  • 17 Aug, 2016

The Law of Reflection

Whenever my husband and I are faced with a challenging experience he will say out loud this is an AFGE: Another F——ING Growth Experience.   It helps us make light of the situation and practice the Law of Allowing and the Law of Detachment.   Not to mention we are witness to how the The Law of Reflection is reflecting our inner reality.  

The Law of Allowing is the principle of least action and of no resistance . And the Law of Detachment says that in order to attract what we want into our lives, we must detach from how it will happen and the outcome.  


The Law of Refection states that everything; every person, relationship and situation in your life is a reflection of you.  

When it comes to our relationship with others; the characteristics in others we admire, dislike, react to negatively or avoid, already exist in us .   In other words, the traits you respond to in others, good or bad exist within you.   And the more a characteristic in someone else irks you, the more the universe is trying to get you to pay attention.  

I learned long ago when I was a practicing therapist that my clients were not “other” than me.   In so many ways, they were just like me.   Even though, I may have been at a different point along the path of personal growth and the continuum of mental health, their desire to be happy, loved, purposeful and productive was also my desire.

I also realized that those characteristics that bothered me about my clients, such as showing up late, were also the characteristics I judged in myself.  

And now in my Law of Attraction Coaching practice, I am equally struck by the parallel areas of growth and desires I share with my clients..   Although this is no surprise, as I am intentionally attracting clients just like me; the me of 10 years ago, 5 years ago, now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now, etc…

We are often drawn to others who mirror or reflect back to us those characteristics in ourselves that we like and admire .   We would not have been able to attract these people to us if we did not also possess these qualities.  

When we are exposed to people who demonstrate characteristics that “push our buttons”, that we resist and fight, it is important to be mindful of the Law of Reflection.   The more a characteristic in someone else irks you, the more the universe is trying to get you to pay attention and to draw your focus within so you can change it within yourself.

Michal O Michaelo is a spiritual coach who states that when you try to change or fix someone in your life, it is a form of denial.   Because deep down you also fear that you possess the very same attributes.   When you understand that this person is merely a reflection of you, then you are more willing to look within to see what this reflection is trying to teach you.

For example, you may feel uncomfortable when your partner expresses anger.  You may try to make light, change the subject or walk away to avoid this discomfort.  In your own way, you are trying to change your partner’s behavior and the situation thinking this behavior is wrong or bad.  Yet, perhaps this is really about avoiding your own anger.  You fear that you may over-express your anger or worse, under-express it and get walked on.

As Christy Whitman , Law of Attraction author, speaker and coach states, that which you dislike in yourself, you will dislike in others.  She recommends that w hen we dislike a quality in another, we point the finger back to ourselves as this is a great indication of where we need to develop self-love and self-acceptance.  And, an enhanced capacity for self-love and self-acceptance is reflected in increased acceptance and love of others.  

Understanding the Law of Reflection and applying it in our lives help us to become who we are truly meant to be and guides us back to our connection to Source .  So here’s to an AFCGO: Another F—-ING Continual Growth Opportunity!

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